As I’m getting older, I realize more and more that there seems to be a societal time clock. No one told me that the second I turned twenty, I would feel such pressure to have the rest of my life figured out. I’m lucky enough to have an amazing support system that reassures me that I’m right where I need to be in my life in this moment. Unfortunately, there are so many young adults who let others' opinion get to them. At the age now of twenty-one, I feel like I am finally settling into the idea of being content where I’m at in my life – despite where others are on their paths.
There are some people out there that believe if you’re not out of school by a certain time or haven’t experienced a first real relationship yet that something must be wrong with you. I’m here to tell you that’s completely and utterly false. When I graduated college with my Associates Degree at nineteen, so many people would say, “Why so soon?” it’s as if there’s always a “Too early” or “Too late” timeline on people’s mind. I truly feel like every individual person is on their own timeline and shouldn’t be made to feel like they're ahead or behind in their life. I personally have been struggling with the idea of being “behind” in certain areas of my life – succumbing to the pressure’s society creates. I have to remind myself when something is supposed to happen, it will happen at the right time in my life - when it’s meant to happen.
It’s normal to feel defeated in certain areas of your life at times if you feel like you aren’t where you want to be yet – but it’s important to ask yourself if what you’re feeling is coming from you or if it’s coming from others' opinion on your life. When you’re able to differentiate the two, it becomes easier to move forward in your own life. I often pause and ask myself this question that way I know from where my feelings are truly stemming. I encourage you to focus on you – it’s your path, no one else’s. Do what you want to do with your life – on your own timeline. What someone else does at twenty, may happen for you at the age of twenty-five… which is totally fine. Replace societal timelines with your future plans that only include your time frame! Life is such a treasure and the more I live, the more I recognize the importance of living for me – not for someone else’s approval.
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#2 Vision boards are super fun to make & can help you visually create the path that is meant for you! I made my own this past month & found the process to be very therapeutic.