Staying true to you has become a line that I replay over + over in my head as of late. In a world that is fueled by social media, it can be difficult to stay true to who you are at your core. I have found myself feeling insecure, comparing myself to other ladies due to what society deems as beautiful or desirable. The truth is, I’ve grown to accept (even love) my dark under eye circles, rosy Lupus cheeks and makeup-free skin. Something I know for certain about myself is that I’m real – I’m not a filtered version of something or someone else.
I think we all go through phases of experimenting with our style whether that means playing with different styles of clothing or even going as far as coloring our hair. I have definitely gone through this and even experienced life as a blonde. This was fun for a while, but I realized quickly it simply just wasn’t me. I went back and forth a few times between my natural brunette locks and bright blonde – but as of late I'm committed to my roots. I mention this because for so long (without realizing it) my blonde hair had become my security blanket to some degree. I had subconsciously felt that my blonde hair was what made me pretty / special in some way. I noticed I was comparing myself to other girls – especially on Instagram who didn’t look anything like me. In the back of my mind, not being blonde or a size two meant that I wasn’t really all that desirable. This couldn’t be further from the truth and I now recognize more than ever the importance of celebrating each other’s differences. I also recognize how critical it is for me to take social media breaks. I find it’s important to remind ourselves that what we see online isn’t always an accurate depiction of a person’s real life or what they’re going through. Staying true to you means that you don’t let society or social media influence what you believe to be beautiful. Beauty comes from our hearts and how we treat others + being desirable does not rely solely on our looks. It also doesn't mean looking one specific way.
Staying true to you also means being kind – it propels the question “Would I be proud of myself in this moment tomorrow when I reflect on it?” it’s easy to get caught up in certain friendships and begin to behave or treat others as the people around you would – I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again… you are who you surround yourself with. Staying true to you may mean taking a step back from a friend who doesn’t align with your heart or values.
Learning to love you for you is something that I believe should be a priority. When we learn to love what makes us who we are – we are less inclined to compare ourselves to others & those around us are able to love us in a way that we know we deserve. I encourage you to Stay true to you :)